Sitting on the deck in the dark of the night, I suddenly felt the urge to cover my face with my hoodie. My daughter had convinced me to take yet another personality test. The results … well, they weren’t very surprising.
Reading the traits out loud took me back to grade school. I could still hear my teacher say, “You need to be quieter … not so energetic.” She should have just said, “Misty, be more like Jane and less like yourself.” When someone tells you that, you instantly become uncomfortable being yourself.
You have probably heard the phrase, “Just be yourself.” I’ve even told myself this, especially when I’m getting ready to meet new people, or walk into a situation, where I’ll feel awkward and uncomfortable.
Being myself isn’t always easy. I worry if I’m the true me, others will not like me. I haven’t made up this scenario in my mind — I’ve faced people’s displeasure when I’ve tried being “the real Misty.”
But I can’t change people’s opinions, and I certainly shouldn’t be changing the way God made me. So, I guess the question is not “Will they like me?” but “Will I choose to like myself?”
God certainly has something to say about that. In today’s key verse, God says: “But who are you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, ‘Why have you made me like this?’” (Romans 9:20).
Here, God calls Himself the molder of me, the molder of you. As our Maker, He knew exactly what He was doing when He made me talkative, energetic, even outspoken. He knew these were traits He would use along with the gifts He has given me. These traits, when honed by Him, would glorify Him.
The same is true for you. When He made you, He knew exactly what He was doing! He knew you needed to be extroverted or introverted, loud or quiet, energetic or low-key. God not only tells us to not question why He made us a certain way, but He gets to decide how He will use His creation!
This is the true reason why we need to know, in the deepest parts of who we are, that He made us, that what He made is good and that He will use what He made.
Friend, what if we let this truth be the basis for loving who we are? For when we receive God’s view of ourselves, it helps us see others in a new way … the way God sees them.
John sums it up best: “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19, NIV).